at the end of the day, you have to evaluate your options

if that means breaking things a part, and trying to fit things back together

that obviously don't belong,

you have to make a choice, better make sure it's the right one.

Wilkinson - Afterglow

Things started to make sense.

"Prizing social validation and a sense of belonging so highly, romantic relationships hold a special level of importance for ESFJs. No other kind of relationship provides people with the ESFJ personality type with the same level of support and devotion, and the feelings of security and stability that come with strong romantic relationships are extremely warming.

With such a goal in mind, ESFJ personalities take each stage, from dating to everything thereafter, very seriously.  Knowing that they are loved and appreciated has a huge effect on ESFJs' mood and self-esteem. They can be very needy, compromising their own principles and values in exchange for their partners' approval. ESFJs need to ensure that they build relationships that allow them to satisfy their own needs and dreams, with partners who appreciate their care and generosity fully, and who reciprocate as well."

https://www.16personalities.com/esfj-relationships-dating

Ember Island - Need You (Lyric Video)

You're just not that lucky.

You deseve the best.

A commonality that I have found between all my interactions in relationships,

is that I always get to a point, where I realise that I can do better.

I get to this realisation that there is a better person out there,

who will fall so completely and utterly in love with me,

so much so that I shouldn't have to deal with anyone else's bullshit.

I know sometimes it's hard to see when your field of vision is blocked by something so toxic disguised as an angel standing right in front of you.

I guess the sad thing is that sometimes people don't always realise the value of what they have, standing there right in front of them, until it's gone. 

Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath, re-focus your perspective and know that

you are strong enough to let go.

After all, we all deserve the best, sometimes it just takes a little time to realise it.

Date Day